In the ego mode where we seek satiation, we need that partner to call us and come to us or we need to be recognized in the job or we need friends to like us, the ego mode is in its most dependent and potentially most destructive…
Remove an important satiation and we become needy. The ego mind in order to satiate will reach out for reassurance – allowing the pain of need to be validated as a “reality” of some sort to justify actions..
In the ego mode we reach out for reassurance. As we do that the brain constructs many different mental logical models of why we dont have what we feel we should have to take the pain away, to satiate. Often it will do what the ego mind does and further attack self esteem, reasoning that for some reason we don’t deserve what we need, or that somehow fate has left us behind. This makes the need for reassurance even more profound as we seek other mental models of reasoning to understand so that we can satiate the pain. Differnet reasoning different thoughts, around and around but with no permanent loss of the pain of need.
We reason this, and that and this and then we reach out for a third party reassurance. Anything to take that pain of need away…
If we cant get satiation, we blame. Often we blame the person who we perceive in the moment is keeping us from removing the pain of need. This can be family, friends , the loved one who wont call, anyone who wont give us the drug of reassurance – even people we’ve recruited to help . ( try this job for just a week if you want to sample that one ). The ego mind will construct reason after reason, many having little or no basis in fact, and will assign responsibility and blame to those who don’t or cant help us satiate that pain.
In addiction therapy this is often refered to as the “insanity”… Even without any clinical addiction there’s need, co
dependancy and ‘insanity’ – often the drug is acceptance or reassurance. All are ego mode states.
Until we’ve defused or transcended the core emotions that drive this process through ego death, every living human is subject to it at any time… Finding the truth that everyone is subject to this ego mode model which is simply programming and can be transcended, and that transcending it brings us to true oneness… is the core of all spiritual progression.
Most of us find this ego death such a hard process because we have learned ot think of ourselves as our thoughts, our opinions, our fears, our likes, we have become the very ego that needs to be detached from and therefore to many theres such a profound feeling of loss of “self” in this process and indeed there is – but not or REAL self, of perceived “self” which is simply that ego construct of a culmination of all events that have happened to us and shaped our perceptions.
In finding this path there is no “ah-ha” moment, no intellectual process, no thought, no board, no book that can make this happen. The reason that we think there is and we keep looking is because we have learned to do everything with the mind, to find new answers that obey the simple logic, to give us the magical insight of the mental process and yet there is none…..
The universe at her deepest level, and ESPECIALLY people, don’t obey logic and never did and yet the mind can only work at a linear logic level where it needs A+B=C to make “sense of something.
Once we stop trying to use such a simple devise to find complex answers then we can look inside at the deeper multi level, multi dimensional reality of existence and thing come clearer. Finally we can purge the residual emotions that were the land mines of daily existence and they wont control us any longer
Article – Transformation and Ego Death by Steve Gunn
If you would like to know more about a process that manages the transition of ego detachment into the state of oneness and peace ( “ego death” as its commonly refereed to ) , my group of self help techniques and teachings collectively referred to as Ptsen-Nuh ( pronounced “sen-new” or abbreviated as PN ) now have their own separate site http://www.healmyenergy.com including feedback from people who have undertaken the teachings..Share on Facebook