The most vital thing to understand about soul connections ( and often the least understood thing about soul connections ) is that they obey totally different rules and work in very different ways to conventional relationships.
In fact in though all we may be thinking about is the actual relationship – its just one element of something much bigger.
Understanding some of these differences is VITAL to getting a grip on the often seemingly bizarre situations we find ourselves in when connected to someone. In a conventional relationship person A meets person B, there’s usually some physical attraction, then getting to know the person, then emotions begin to develop. A 3 stage process…
In soul connections they can start in the same way with stages 1 and 2 but then WHAM the emotions come from nowhere and they are HUGE, usually massively disproportionate from the time we’ve spent together or how much we think we know the person. It’s also very common that the emotions come first sometimes when we haven’t even met the person face to face. Or the very first time we meet them the connection happens and we realize we do know them and somehow the emotions are there already.
So the crucial aspect to realize here is that its an EXTERNAL force between us and them not internal as in a conventional relationship….. Do we love them and them us, yes but its not a love that’s something we ‘decide’, its been decided for us by the connection and was spiritually pre existing, all we had to do was meet them in order to be brought to recognize that.
Both people will respond, usually instantly knowing there’s something special but how much they are affected at the time and how much they realize whats going on depends upon their level of spiritual openness at the time. We’re all familiar with the situation where its fine for a time then one person just seems to freak out and head for the hills because its all so strong and they don’t feel in control of it. A classic case where the closer they get to it the more there’s still there and they fear the lack of control they would have in the interaction.
So remember, this is an external force and its strong. To those of us who are open that’s a wonderful thing. To those who still have fear insecurity and doubt it can also be a terrifying thing – something that’s so powerful they begin to fear it because they have no escape route and no control. So when you have your readings and 10 readers say no he doesn’t love you and 10 say yes he does, then you join a huge group of people who have experienced the “what the heck is going on in this situation and what’s the reality ?”
Well if you’re in a true connection, the reality is yes the love is there, but it’s a love that is not a conventional ‘emotionally decided’ love, its something that transcends that. You love each others soul in a pure spiritual way and that has existed before you even met. The thing to really understand is that although the other person may SEEM to have their freewill overriding this, often its pure fear. Also if they are still spiritually closed they aren’t yet feeling the full force of the connection so the truth may be that yes they feel it but that they haven’t opened enough yet to let it consume them and they’re fighting it.
Have faith that spiritual openness is the order of the day, its often why there’s a connection, to make the spiritually closed people walk the path of total openness. And when they get there, then the connection will control them as much as it controls you. Don’t be under the illusion that they can somehow choose never to be open or they have enough will power to override it. True connections are mutual and as the runner opens up they will be more affected by it. Free will can not maintain control over these things forever, its simply not powerful enough. And besides, this is why you were given the connection in the first place, to bring you both to new levels of spiritual openness and awareness.
I believe it was Einstein who said “the only thing that’s constant in the universe is change’ People cant choose not to change its how the universe works, they can just delay the process. They cannot use free will to stand still forever. Its why over the years I have thousands of letters from people, all of who have experienced this phenomenon and have been through the hell that often accompanies it. People reunite after incredible amounts of time and the love is still as strong, it nevers goes. Its just that it took so long for one of the partners to let go enough to accept it.
A classic case I often site is a client who met her soul connection when she was 18 and knew there was something there but chose to not go with it. Now in her 40′s she called me in tremendous pain to say she cant live without this guy. He just cant get his head around how she could stay away for over 20 years and then be in so much pain to be with him. But this story isnt unusual….when people open up it gets to them, they cant fight it anymore. My files are full of cases where people come together across continents, over incredible periods of time. Remember there’s no guarantee of a relationship, thats down to the two of you when you have balanced all those energies and worked through all that karma.. thats when the universe’s process is finished and it’s over to your freewill.
So when you have a reading try not to make any judgments on what he or she is feeling right now, because that’s really not the whole story and most often wont be any sort of guidance whatsoever. Get a reading on the karma, the purpose of the connection, the path and the progression – that’s going to give you the right answers. Above all have faith in the universes process and find out what you are meant to learn from it.